Thursday, March 26, 2015

Saying No is Hard to Do

I have a problem: I'm really bad at saying no.

Seriously, it's an issue.

I am a people-pleaser, and a do-er, and an extroverted introvert. When invites and ideas start flowing, I almost automatically say yes. I like to do things! I like to see people! I don't like to let people down, and I definitely suffer from FOMO. I don't want to live vicariously through pictures or miss out on the fun - I want to be part of the fun. So I say yes! Let's do all those things! But I always come to kind of regret that decision. I don't regret the things I take part in, but I do regret not allowing myself to say no, and give myself a little time to recover from allthethings.

Spring brings weddings and babies and parties and celebrations, and it's so much fun, but I inevitably wear myself (and my husband) down. Unfortunately, it's already happening this year, and it's not even April - we are smack-dab in the middle of four straight weekends that are booked solid with plans, and I can already feel the dust and laundry piling up in the house, my stress levels increasing, and my sleep levels decreasing. It takes a toll on my total well-being!

For a while, C and I had an agreement that I had to literally schedule one weekend per month during which we would have absolutely no plans, so that we could do the things that need to be done: laundry, housework, yard work, grocery shopping. There was a time when I would write in my calendar, "DO NOT MAKE PLANS," and leave that weekend empty. Looking at my spring schedule, I'm pretty sure I need to reenact that rule. Here's to making an effort to gently and firmly saying no sometimes, so that I don't actually lose my mind.

How do you say no? Do you suffer from FOMO?


Aileen Metcalf said...

Hahaha. I have an idea of what you are talking about ;-)

Stephanie @ My Freckled Life said...

I totally get the same way! Saying no is really, really difficult but sometimes it's definitely necessary for your sanity.

And I know I'm contributing to your crazy packed weekends coming up, so I do apologize for that!! :( Let me know if there is anything I can do to make it easier, because I definitely don't want you to get overly stressed!!

S Ganeeban said...

The BF asked that we do this as well, kinda. We just agree on a weekend day, it doesn't have to be once a month, where we don't schedule anything. So far, our first one didn't work out so well. We're trying it again though! Glad you're working on it. I like being busy too, but I realize too late when I'm burnt out. xoxo, ganeeban